Actually, I think I know exactly what you are saying. And we do that now, kind of trade off. Everything is pretty good except I sometimes wonder what it would be like if she was "really" dominant. She is just so darn sweet and wonderful all the time, (unless you put a sterring wheel in her hand, LOL). She loves the feeling of power when she uses a strapon on me but she just doesn't have it in her to really be dominant and forceful with me. I think she just doubts herself too much.