It's almost funny how applicable this is and just the opposite. For years, I have been trying to gently introduce my wife into a F/m or D/s relationship but she is so submissive herself that it's very difficult. Neither of us wants to do anything unpleasant to the other and yet we both crave it from a submissive standpoint.

I don't think it matters that I am male and am trying to initiate a D/s type scene from the submissive direction. I think it's just real difficult to get a non-dominant person to act very dominant. I have gotten her to have a really good time with a strapon and I think she enjoys the power-trip she senses from that. But I don't think there is any way in hell I'll ever get her to really punish me.