We've been exploring it (bondage/spanking) on occasion, not every time, since very early in our relationship, in a very mild way. It was his idea the first time. Lately I've just been more into exploring new things, so I got some equipment- he still likes tying his own knots He wants to make sure he isn't really hurting me and reassure me that the rude things he says he means in the most loving way. I just show him I like it and it encourages him to keep it up. I'm guessing nothing you want to ask is too explicit from reading some of the other stories. I don't mind either