BDSM Blacks

[Alex Bragi]

The other day, when I was in the chat room, BDSMtourguide mentioned something I found rather interesting. He said - he's not aware of any black people in the bdsm community.

Now, firstly, I want to make it very clear that while I certainly may have many faults, wasting my time worrying about how much, or little, melanin someone has in their skin is not one of them.

A quick search, of black bdsm on google, reveals literally dozens of porn sites featuring hot black bodies. Hallelujah! I tell you, there' s definitely no shortage of images of sexy black men on the net! Maybe this can be largely attributed to the idea that black men have larger penises and are therefore more sexual? But, more importantly, are these images created for blacks and coloureds or whites?

It's interesting to note dominance/submission and traditional power exchange has played a significant role in African history. Here are a couple of examples:

The West African Malinke tribe's religious belief was the worship of a spirit named Mama Dyumbo who protected their village and kept their women in a state of submission. Whenever a woman was disobedient, her husband would mimic the deity by donning makeup, masks and elaborate headpieces and then drive the woman out of their home for a communal whipping. What an intriguing, and primitive, combination of D/s, cross-dressing, s/m and voyeurism that must have been.

Within the matriarchal society of the Tuareg, of Northern Africa, women enjoyed freedom of choice in sexual involvement and often entertained male visitors when their husbands were absent. The tents and furnishings were the personal property of the women alone. Today, Tuareg men still are required to wear veils that conceal their entire face excluding their eyes. Oh, yes, the very peak… the very essence of femdom!

In the past , in America, the ability of coloured people to survive under the cruel conditions of slavery and be able to retain internal strength, fortitude and resolve was an amazing feat. People tend to gravitate towards others with a similar history. They feel most comfortable with people who have had the same experiences and harships. Since the majority of slaves were non-consenting, and since their forefathers suffered such a horrific past, maybe participating in this kind of lifestyle doesn't have quite the same appeal?

Still, I'm sure there are kinky coloured people out there, but is the number of white men and women to black men and women, involved in BDSM, proportionate to the population at large?

Obviously some coloured people must enjoy BDSM play, but is there a predominance of dominants or subs when compared to whites? Psychologists from Freud onwards theorised that many people who act out bdsm play are engaging in a type of self-therapy—a healing of sorts. So, bearing that in mind, do coloured people simply prefer to play dominant/submissive games with other coloured people, rather than non-coloureds? If so are they perhaps, to some degree, ethnocentric about their sexuality?

Words like 'slut' and 'bitch' are very derogatory, ordinarily they would never be used, however in the heat of bdsm they can be red hot. So would blacks use words like "nigger" during humiliation play?

And, is interracial bdsm the edge of edge play? Is it a bit taboo, especially to many middle Americans? Is that why we don't see or hear much about it?

Finally, I want to reinterate that I'm not a racist. I don't discriminate against people because of their colour, sex, or religion. Quite simply, TG's remark got me thinking about the possible differences (sexually) and reasons for them, between coloured and non-coloured groups.

Oh, and, I really didn't mean for this post to so long, but I guess like Topsy— it just grew. *ss*

Alex

[Adamoverjules]

I haven't seen the latest Gallup polls but.... haha j/k

It's definitly an interesting question, and I'm not exactly sure of the angle you are looking for, but in my time online, I have seen a few places and people who believed black people should (still) serve the Dominant White Race. On the other side of the same coin, I have seen places and people that believe whites should serve the Perfect Black Race. So basically, all I can say is yes, they are out there.

[GaryWilcox]

Seems to me the stigma associated with BDSM would be doubly bad within the African-American culture... but then, I'm not black, so all I can do is speculate with a little common sense.

[Katmandu]

I haven't once come across in RL any blacks interested in BDSM. Those are extremely interesting questions you've asked, Alex.

From personal experience, I am white female who has slept with a few black men in my life. And yes, they are bigger! LOL
My 2 sons are, actually, half black.

All of this took place eons ago when I was in the Army. Crossing the 'color' boundaries was not a taboo issue while serving together.

Due to the fact I have the 2 children,I have always been a part of his family, even though we split up @ 13 years ago. It's given me many insights into their psychological make-up.

It's amazing that so many of the women are strong willed, and the men tend to be more subdued in their personalities. This works between the bedsheets, also. (Honestly, that doesn't work for me, as I always knew I needed a man that was "more man than me!")

Just watch any of the numerous black TV sitcoms today, and the women tend to dominate the men. Maybe, this is why actual BDSM doesn't work, as they are inherently already living it in one form or other.

Just some thoughts/ observations.

[Aeneas]

If there is one thing the sorry twentieth century should have taught us it is that no one race should dominate another race. Coming from a by far from perfect multi-racial society, I applaud our differences and rejoice in our diversity. America is often called a "melting pot". While this is becoming more and more true, I also like to think of it as a mosaic. All the different colors and shapes of glass, unique in their own right, form an amazing image when taken as a whole.

[Darknite]

there have been some black models who I have seen on sites like insex and hogtied. I personally relish in the diversity that is prevalent in America, although I have a problem with the social stigmatas surrounding interracial communication. I've been called racist on occassion for forgetting to refer to someone as 'african american'. Quite to the contrary, the first girl I made out with was black. I've also know a couple ebony ladies who were clearly submissive, but that is quite a jump from being into BDSM.

I wonder how hard it would be for them to get over the fact that their ancestors were slaves to the white people for so long.

That could be bad, you've got her tied up on the bed and her brothers are knocking on the front door yelling about you being a KKK member. Sheesh.

[Nightstriker]

Well I personally know that there are blacks in the BDSM life. I have met a couple of them and I have heard of others.

[GaryWilcox]

I've been called racist on occassion for forgetting to refer to someone as 'african american'.

Did you notice how I hedged my bets above?

I actually prefer to use African-American because it doesn't refer to a color, but a culture (which can be related to behavioral patterns), whereas color doesn't predetermine norms of behavior.