Hi there, I am a new female sub. Very recently was introduced to the lifestyle and I liked it and want to explore it further with my mate. My mate is also new to the lifestyle so we both are fumbling around a bit trying to figure out how everything works. That is why I just joined this website.
So here's the thing:::

From what I have seen, done and read so far, we really are into the sub/dom thing, submission, power, control, bondage, slave/master kind of thing. Lite spanking is good but major pain or torture, bruising or things like that are not a turn on. I don't think it's about the pain or really getting hurt for me, it's more of the mental power/control. I haven't found any books on that and don't really know how to proceed. Does anyone have any ideas on things to read, and how to get more involved? Any role plays or ideas for things to try out? We went to a munch group once but I am not sure that that is will be a good venue -- that seemed to be more about the SM pain and less about sex.....any ideas where to get items/clothing inexpensively? Also, any groups that are out there where people of similar interests get together?>

Just looking for info and suggestions at this point. Thanks,