words, actions or both?

[sinderella]

BDSM is not a game, not mere sexplay...it is about surrendering body & mind and sharing your soul in a profound way with one very special person. which is why i cling to every word He says and count the hours until we meet again. i am in the new stages of a relationship with Him (not a member of this forum and not an online person but a real person, and a seasoned, experienced Dom)...he is my second, and i was deeply involved once before with a Gorean Master, and after much training and time together, i learned what it was all about, tapped the submissive part of myself that was just waiting, and never looked back. vanilla lovers hold no charms for me anymore, and any Dom i get involved with would have to be experienced, know exactly what he is doing and be patient and understanding. as you can imagine, they are few and far between. i feel that i have found Him, though, as He is wonderful beyond imagining...loving, patient, sensuous, intelligent, deliberate, 'dark'...it has been about a month and a half, and we have met several times...each time, although our exploration has been mostly vanilla, our talks and images we share have been D/s (in addition to very romantic song clips, etc.)

the problem is that at first, His chat was always on, He text messaged me every day (several times), we talked every day on the phone and met once or twice a week...and in the last two weeks, since right before Halloween, we have talked on the phone only once and have not texted at all, save for one or two in the last few days after i began pulling away from Him...do you examine his words, or his actions? do you think i am being needy and/or imagining things? i really want to know, since this is all making me sad and wanting to retreat, even though this man is incredible. He says He adores me, has plans for me, loves me and craves me, yet is absent, while i have not tapered off at all, except for the last few days to spare myself the agony of waiting for Him. now He is away and we plan to reunite when He returns, and He promised to text me while traveling to, in His words, 'keep me close' and sadly, no text messages...

i would really appreciate your guys's thoughts - in fact, i need them now.

thank you.