An Emotional Connection

[brwneydgirl]

In regards to the poly dom aspect, that can get even more tricky. If you know he (or she) already has other long-term relationship(s), you have to be cautious about what level of emotional connection he can make with you. In my experience, it wasn't establishing the emotional connection that was the problem - that just happened on both our parts.

I believe the emotional connection is already there for me. It's more a question of ....how deep do I want to let it get...or how deep does it need to be in order for both of us to feel fulfilled and actually enjoy our interactions.

Guilt is an issue (for both of us...moreso on my part, I think). And, if I can be perfectly honest, I do feel a bit of jealousy about the other girls. Some of them have been with him for years. He claims that none is the "alpha sub" and that he has an emotional connection to all of them on some level. I just don't know if I can/should let myself get any deeper than I already have here....I'm not sure I can accept this level of poly.

[openyoureyes]

I just don't know if I can/should let myself get any deeper than I already have here....I'm not sure I can accept this level of poly.

Would it be possible to take a break of some sort? Maybe a week or so to be apart, to analyze your feelings, needs, wants, etc. and then come to a decision on whether you are indeed in too deep, or if you are able to handle things?