Asking other dom/mes for advice and opinions is always a good idea. Availing yourself of the knowledge and experience of others is the easiest way to learn safely. If asking a question means you're less likely to do something upsetting (or downright dangerous) then it has to be well worth the effort.

I would also say that asking questions of experienced submissives and switches is a great way to learn. We all have to start somewhere; when I began researching BDSM I found a million and one resources for submissives, but for dominants? Yeah, good luck finding anything, which is what drew me to this site.

IMO, being so pre-occupied with the appearance of strength that you neglect to make use of the wisdom of others is a sure-fire sign of weakness and insecurity. Educated is what you aim to be coming out, not going in, and everything is an opportunity to learn.

*Steps off soap box, looking sheepish.*

Uh, yeah. That's probably enough pontificating from me, hope it wasn't too bad