I have not asked much in my 15 years of BDSM. At first beacuse i didnt really have anyone to ask. Later on because i didnt respect anyone i could ask.

I could well be just a hardhead and generally lack respect for people. But what i met back then was all ego's and BS to me. So maybe theres two sides to that story.

What i did intstead was study the hard way, novels, articles and so on. But deep down i am a loner and i dont take words on right and wrong to heart really. Telling me right or wrong back in the day just ment i had to try the contrary.

Im finally asking a little theese days, when i come across people who can assert themselves without making it a pissing match. Probably by now i got most philosophy and tecnique sorted in my head, but clearly i got more to learn. I doubt id have the same respect for my craft if i had learned it all off some mentor or teacher.

But i would definately have learned more than my years suggest. Quite likely if i had been on a site like this back then id have a different perspective. But i didnt meet people like the ones i found here back then.

Only signs of weakness i know of is pretending to be all that and claiming to know it all.

Since asking questions aint on the list well get on with it. I know i will.