How to "Bring it Up" and Marriage

[buDdha]

Hello Everyone,

I've had a good time keeping up with everyone's kind thoughts, appreciating your suggestions and perspectives. I wanted to give you an update. I sent my hubby one of those checklists that I've seen here and on other websites, that subs give their doms of what the limits are. I edited it slightly to make it pertinent to both partners. I'm sure you all have seen them in one version or another -- this one was huge, over a hundred possibilities including at least one thing I'd never heard of. I thought that being able to be clear so that he didn't have to worry about what he didn't know, and that he'd feel more comfortable with things in the concrete.

Then I panicked and told him to ignore it, but I got this really nice email back from him; here's what he said, exactly: "It's awesome! I love it. Let's go over it together." Then he came home, we giggled over my embarrassment, and also over some of the things on the list that seemed way out of our world.

We haven't yet gone over the list, but tonight when he left for his nightly walk, he smiled a glint in his eye at me and informed me "tomorrow morning your ass is mine."

How lucky am I how open he is to me? I also want to mention a couple of comments that really resonated for me. Thank you, Oz, for reminding me that "Domination need not be anything more than asserting ones "authority"." I've enjoyed the opportunity to think more about my own desires, rather than stereotyped cathections. Also, PinkSugar, you're right that I don't have to assume it's impossible; Seems like I'm learning more and more that I can talk with the fella about what I'd like. Between the both of you, I'm reminded of the importance of being honest with myself about what I want before short circuiting that investigation with assumptions about what things are "supposed" to be like.

Finally, fetishdj (nice pix by the way), your idea of swapping fantasies is a great one. In fact, it's kind of sexy, a nice way to let go and have him run things.

One thing that's curious is that, this last week, I've been looking at things that make me anxious in a more accepting -- dare I say submitting -- manner, letting go of being in charge and doing my best to serve those around me. It's been nice. Anyone else have a similar experience?

Anyhow, I'll update you all again as things manifest. . .

[leo9]

We haven't yet gone over the list, but tonight when he left for his nightly walk, he smiled a glint in his eye at me and informed me "tomorrow morning your ass is mine."

Update! Update!