Assertive Submissive?

[leah06]

I agree with Jeanne about not feeling like you have to fit yourself into a particular definition, but for me, when someone just in passing on this site mentioned the difference between a bedroom or sexual submissive and a service submissive, it was really helpful to me.

Maybe you're not a service submissive, or maybe you're still exploring, but there's certainly nothing wrong with bedroom submission. And in my experience, sometimes the very men who like you to be in charge in the relationship really enjoy being in charge in the bedroom, once you've given them permission.

[jeanne]

I agree with Jeanne about not feeling like you have to fit yourself into a particular definition, but for me, when someone just in passing on this site mentioned the difference between a bedroom or sexual submissive and a service submissive, it was really helpful to me.

Maybe you're not a service submissive, or maybe you're still exploring, but there's certainly nothing wrong with bedroom submission. And in my experience, sometimes the very men who like you to be in charge in the relationship really enjoy being in charge in the bedroom, once you've given them permission.

I agree - definitions concerning 'type' of submission are helpful. I was referring to those horrid (yes, my opinion only!) threads about submissive vs. slave - and the implied and overt theme of slaves being 'better' than submissives.

I think I just injected my own issues into this thread...so I'll stop now!