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[Ozme52]

delia has a good point, it takes work to find partners. Whether vanilla or lifestyle, you get out of it what you put into it.

It's like the concept of 'you get what you pay for.' If you're cheap on words and time, you get wannabes, teases, and the fearful. If you're generous with your words and time, the quality people will become interested in meeting you and thereafter, the proof is in the pudding. If you are what you appear to be, you will have some amazing people.

[snowflake]

delia has a good point, it takes work to find partners. Whether vanilla or lifestyle, you get out of it what you put into it.

It's like the concept of 'you get what you pay for.' If you're cheap on words and time, you get wannabes, teases, and the fearful. If you're generous with your words and time, the quality people will become interested in meeting you and thereafter, the proof is in the pudding. If you are what you appear to be, you will have some amazing people.

I agree with you .. i don't like playing and lose interest fast in ones that just play on line and go slap slap on your knees and do me....sorry not my thing..

But someone that puts effort in both play and posting and advising gets my full attention and makes it interesting enough that yes.. there is that kind of feeling i would like to meet them... and have met a few people such as Doms that way...

Another suggestion i can make is to get knowing in the r/l circle.. Munches are good .. the parties and seeing how you respond there are better .. and the private parties that you may get invited to are even better for finding someone.... I know i have seen this over the years...

Just my opinion

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