Is cyber cheating

[Alex Bragi]

...(oh and for the people that say they are with vanilla partners,) everybody can be changed it just takes time..

Oh boy, this sounds just like something my Dad would say about homosexuals.

Digressing a little here...

I'm in a very happy in a vanilla relationship r/t--he's everything I could ever want but for one thing. I'm also in a very happy in a bdsm relationship v/t. with with a man, Bragi, who is in much the same situation as me. Bragi fills a huge void in my life; a tremendous need that needs to be satisfied. I feel that together these two men make my life complete and wonderful. I truly feel that on some levels my v.t. actually enhances my r.t. relationship and maybe visa versa too. If I had to, I couldn't possibly choose between the two men because each one fills and satisfies an entirely different part of me. Bragi and I are very happy; both of our respective partners is happy although neither is aware of our online "secret", and after a decade I can't see that changing any time soon. I'm not asking, or expecting, everyone here to understand this but to perhaps just be a little more open minded and empathic towards people like me.

Is it cheating? Probably, but what's the alternative? Oh, I know what exactly what all you idealists out there will say, so please don't give me your rhetoric about "changing people" and I'll spare you the sad and unfortunate facts about why it just simply isn't that simple.

So, is it really fair to judge what is right, and what is not, here?

Oh, and DowntownAmber, spot on! Well said!

You too, Oz, you're always worth a read.

And, new1, I hope you're able to sort this out.

[Tojo]

It seems to me New1, that you're asking the wrong people the wrong question- as annie pretty much said, you have to work it out yourself whether what she did is acceptable to you.

[Ozme52]

It seems to me New1, that you're asking the wrong people the wrong question- as annie pretty much said, you have to work it out yourself whether what she did is acceptable to you.

Oho! Look who's back. Excellent!






N.B. As forum posts tend to be atonal, please be sure there is no sarcasm intended in the above remark.

[jeanne]

Oh boy, this sounds just like something my Dad would say about homosexuals.

Digressing a little here...

I'm in a very happy in a vanilla relationship r/t--he's everything I could ever want but for one thing. I'm also in a very happy in a bdsm relationship v/t. with with a man, Bragi, who is in much the same situation as me. Bragi fills a huge void in my life; a tremendous need that needs to be satisfied. I feel that together these two men make my life complete and wonderful. I truly feel that on some levels my v.t. actually enhances my r.t. relationship and maybe visa versa too. If I had to, I couldn't possibly choose between the two men because each one fills and satisfies an entirely different part of me. Bragi and I are very happy; both of our respective partners is happy although neither is aware of our online "secret", and after a decade I can't see that changing any time soon. I'm not asking, or expecting, everyone here to understand this but to perhaps just be a little more open minded and empathic towards people like me.

Is it cheating? Probably, but what's the alternative? Oh, I know what exactly what all you idealists out there will say, so please don't give me your rhetoric about "changing people" and I'll spare you the sad and unfortunate facts about why it just simply isn't that simple.

So, is it really fair to judge what is right, and what is not, here?

Oh, and DowntownAmber, spot on! Well said!

You too, Oz, you're always worth a read.

And, new1, I hope you're able to sort this out.

As usual, Alex, you've echoed my thoughts. Thank you for for that.