Okay, I apologize for misunderstanding you, Moonraker.

To answer the real question you were asking, this is my view. You mentioned not understanding why some people think they are. I think there might be a couple of reasons. First, I think that stereotypes say that a man should be the dom. So, for some men, you might have them thinking: "Hmm, why do I enjoy this? Should I really? Is it really okay for me to enjoy being both sub and dom?"

Another reason, I think, is how they feel when placed in roles of both sub and dom. Some people enjoy both roles equally, while others enjoy one role more than the other. I think there might be thoughts by some people, that their BDSM experiences would be "better", and less complex, if they stuck to just one role of either dom or sub, and would be easier on their partners, especially in the case where they would dom, and have to ask a partner to sub, and the partner might not want to sub.

These are just a few thoughts. I dont know if you agree, but this is how I see it, Moonraker.

Mitch