domina asks subs - your self-esteem?

[Ozme52]

While some Dom/mes may be about subjugating their submissives will and self esteem, many more are indeed just like you Tigress.

We desire subs who have a high regard for themselves. Those who do are the best able to serve their doms. That's what I want, to be well served. If I had to be picking up the pieces of their ego that I strip away from them... I wouldn't be able to get that from them.

[cadence]

Definately not a "wussy" thing to say or think, but a very admirable way to be.

We desire subs who have a high regard for themselves. Those who do are the best able to serve their doms. That's what I want, to be well served. If I had to be picking up the pieces of their ego that I strip away from them... I wouldn't be able to get that from them.

I just have to say thank you Oz for saying this. This statement has put some of the things that I have been reacting to negatively, into a more clear and concise perspective.
I don't have a Dominant, but have agreed to be tasked every so often and push some of my limits with humiliation.
Some of the things I have done, have left my self esteem in shambles. He does encourage, support and praise everything that I do for him.

I have at times put myself in such a negative head-space I think that I should be coddled for my efforts.
In reality it is up to me to be assertive and keep my self esteem above water in order to be able to offer what I have.

[jeanne]

That's what I want, to be well served. If I had to be picking up the pieces of their ego that I strip away from them... I wouldn't be able to get that from them.

That just sounds too much like work for the dom. And the last thing I, as his submissive, want to do is create more work for him or make his experience of me less enjoyable. I'm all about him completely enjoying himself. To the point that he always wants more. And more and more and more...

Which I am happy to give.