Doms: age, experience, maturity?

[Sir_Russell]

I have no problem with a young sub wanting a young Dom sorta human nature. But when it comes to learning the life I still say that age experience and wisdom are important.

To that end I advise new subs to ask about the experience of an unknown Dom and if possible talk with subs he has mmmm played with.

Russell

[TomOfSweden]

I have no problem with a young sub wanting a young Dom sorta human nature. But when it comes to learning the life I still say that age experience and wisdom are important.

To that end I advise new subs to ask about the experience of an unknown Dom and if possible talk with subs he has mmmm played with.

Russell

I totaly agree. But my point was along the line of....when we're young an inexperienced we're unlikely to know a good thing when we see it. Kids keep going for, and fall for superficial qualities, simply because they don't know better. It's not until we've been hurt more times than healthy we start thinking. The time when we value age and experience. By which time we're allready over thirty and it's all academic.

I'm just using myself here as a reference, but I've got a feeling that my experiences are far from unique.

[gloombunny]

Personally, while I've been deeply attracted to people much older than me on several occasions, I find that the generation gap can and does get in the way. We just... have different interests and such, and it's harder to relate than with someone closer to my own age. And a relationship has to work as just a relationship before it can work as D/s, at least for me. So that's why I hope for a younger dom. (Though I don't let it stop me when I do get interested in someone older. It'd be foolish to turn down what might be something really good just because the age isn't right, I think.)