How do you know if you're suited for 24/7 submission?

[annie]

Like any other relationship, a 24/7 is defined by the people involved.

I fully agree with Dragon's muse. The people involved in a relationship are the only ones who should define it.

I feel that the relationship that Master and i have is more than just "occasional" and that we are as close (or closer) to a 24/7 relationship then ever before. Some would disagree with that but, in my mind; it isn't the proximity to the physical person but the love, care, guidance, and service to the person on a minute by minute, hour by hour, day by day basis. Yes, we only meet occasionally, we only scene occasionally. But, each day, in 99% of the items i do i am fully aware of his guidance, direction, wishes and pleasures. From what i eat, to what i spend my free time doing, to how i care for the kids, etc., Master provides the directional source and helps me to define myself better as the person i desire to be. Basically, there is nothing that i do that i don't mentally "check" to see if Master would approve of or disapprove of.

So, just my opinion, but it isn't the time frame or the location of how a 24/7 relationship should be defined but the service/guidance that is provided in that same time frame. If that makes any sense!

As to how do you know if you are suited to a 24/7 lifestyle. That is defined, once again, by each person. But, from a submissive standpoint, imho, a good question to help determine would be something along the lines of "Do i naturally think of how my Dom/me would want me to behave, respond, etc. or do i respond how i want without any conscience thought of their guidance?" If the sub naturally refers to the Dom/me in most/all situations then a 24/7 relationship wouldn't be much of a stretch. If the sub prefers to "ask for forgiveness later" than a 24/7 relationship would probably not be for them. At least that how i would decide!

[Eponine]

... each day, in 99% of the items i do i am fully aware of his guidance, direction, wishes and pleasures... Master provides the directional source and helps me to define myself better as the person i desire to be. Basically, there is nothing that i do that i don't mentally "check" to see if Master would approve of or disapprove of.

I had to say EXACTLY!

In everything I do, I act as though Master were there... because anyway He will find out everything... I spill my own beans... lol... but that's not the point...

I know He wants His slave to be the best she can be, and He's given me specifics on how He wants me to be- nailpolish color, style of dress, etc... - and so I am not "doing D/s 24-7", more simply, I am Master's slave. That is not a vacillating state of being. So I have to agree with Tom...

...I don't understand the conflict. My slave is my 24/7 slave and we've both got hectic lives. All being my slave means, is that my word is law. It doesn't mean anything else. If she is tired and all she wants and needs is a massage in the bath; she doesn't stop being my slave because I comply...

Now, I don't yet live with Master- so maybe some would think me naive yet, but I have been there every weekend in full, with and without my two-year-old... and nothing in any second ever changed...

Because it's not something we "do" 24-7 or just on the weekends or whatever, it is just who we are, who we are meant to be to and for each other. Period.

I never even fully understood the term "24-7" in respect to D/s... not judging anyone, but I just don't understand its being described that way.

Even when in past vanilla relationships, I was still a slave inside (albeit non-practicing lol)... just waiting and hoping for that Master (who I had begun to believe was a pipe dream) who could bring her out.

And lastly... this relationship would not be possible for me without the love. Being owned and collared to me equals being loved. I know how much Master loves me and will and does take care of me. I'm His. Not His toy or part-time pet, but just His.

Hope it made sense to you, and was possibly insightful, phantasy_seeker.

And- RUBY- I loved the article- I found it very accurate on the concept of being a slave- the details don't matter- they will vary... but the entire sentiment was very fitting for me. Thank you for sharing!