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So this will be my first blog entry since joining the Library, I have truly enjoyed reading stories, soaking up the insights and the thoughts of other people. Since I am fairly new to the Lifestyle, this to me is a great source of knowledge for those who have questions and wonder if this is truly right for them. It is a wonderful and freeing to the mind and soul to be able to share your feelings, wants and desires without judgment. I have found this to be true in all my encounters with people here and on other sites I have visited. All have been warm, welcoming and so helpful to those in need of guidance or those just wanting to further their knowledge.
To say I have had my doubts about how I now choose to live my life is an understatement, I do not think anyone when they first dip their toes into the deep end feel comfortable at first. I have had my doubts, I don't deny that I am only human. We are all only human with all the messy emotions that come with that, even if we desire to either submit or Dominate. I am a strong woman in my own right, I think many submissive's are in their r/l situations. My work and home life require me to be, I cannot be a slouch in either of these departments and survive on my own. I find nothing wrong is saying I am a strong person and a submissive too. These things in my mind can truly go hand and hand, to submit is to give the gift of your strength up to the One person who connects to your soul. I have learned and been told MANY times it is something you have to WANT to do and no one can force it from you just because they are a Dominant, respect, while this may be given, submission is not.....
So I am posting a blog entry from another site I think many will find as strengthening and positive as I did, at least I hope so....;-). I feel that as submissive's we are all sisters and this makes us strong in our own right. We all have a common bond and should be there to help one another, keep one another from harm and just lend a shoulder to cry on sometimes. I have met several wonderful women who empower me when I am weak, lift me up when I am down and catch me when I fall, I love you all!!!

So to those who enjoy this and choose to read on....thanks. For those who don't...*shrug*...no skin off my nose...


"Are you sure you're a submissive??? Yes, dammit, now go fuck yourself."

Just kidding about the go fuck yourself part (but it gets the point across right?). Come on in!! Get warm and cozy and prepare to be validated if you have ever been accused of not being "submissive enough" (god, hate that). Yes, I am a submissive. And I've heard that A LOT in my time. It gets old (especially from other submissives,*shudder*). Lately I was talking to someone who was confused because she felt so strong in other aspects of her life, yet her enter being gets wet and tingly when she experiences vulnerability during sex, play or service. She CRAVES to let go of the power of everyday bs (we all do!!), but questions her submission as a result.

God I'm lucky. So lucky to have fell into a circle of beautiful, strong, independent women at the beginning of my journey. They schooled me, and now I'm able to school you. Good news people so listen up.

Do you think because I don't look at the ground when you talk to me, I'm not submissive?? Do you think because I don't look at my dom for guidance when someone asks me a question to answer, I'm not submissive?? Do you think because I occasionally *cough* have an opinion of my own that differs from the mainstream, I'm not submissive?? Do you think because I don't butcher the English language and use lower case letters in my name, I'm not submissive?? Well then I am here to tell you, you don't know the meaning of the word. I don't need to hold to your expectations. I bend to one, and that is because I want to. And I'm still submissive! Yay! :-)

I can be strong. I can be opinionated. I can run a household, a business, or a dungeon, or a gang bang and guess what? It has not one thing to do with my submissive status. I can serve whom I want with a smile on my face, or scowl when someone rubs me the wrong way, or call out at the top of my lungs to STFU when someone is stealing my energy in a play space at the dungeon by disrespectfully talking to loud, and guess what?? You guessed it. I am still submissive. I am just not your submissive.

That means I too can find my place while sitting and swooning at a chosen one's beautiful boots while kissing them, and that means I get wet when I am broken and bloodied by that chosen one, and that means I whisper "yes daddy" when he calls me his slutty little whore and commands me to do dirty things for him, and that means I am HAPPY, OOHHH so happy to belong to the ONE who I can trust, and let go of the self control that I have to have in this big, cruel world because I am an ADULT and have to wear my big girl panties most of the time. Whether it's in the bedroom, or dungeon, or with our family while hiking and he gives me that little signal between just him and to let me know I belong to HIM and to not fucking forget it...and I know it's safe, and I feel the tingle in my heart and jump eagerly to his side and show him how I am submissive to him.

Just know that you can bend and enjoy both parts of who you are, one doesn't blur the lines of the other. Please don't let anyone tell you differently and if they do, tell them they have a lot to learn on the subject and there is no twue way to be a sub. In fact there are MANY types of submissives/slaves/bottoms, each one as worthy as the other. My handler enjoys his little lion at the end of his leash, I'm lucky to have found him.

You can take that to the bank.