Does it bother anyone to be told "good girl"?

[hissexypet]

Yep, love hearing Him tell me I'm a good girl.

It's the highest form of praise to me.

[mollydoll]

I've always strived to be a "good little girl" "sweet girl" pretty little doll etc. The only term that I've ever had an issue with was being called "cunt" My former Master only called me that one time and when it made me cry he never called me that again. I'm not sure why it made me cry it just did and it wasn't crying in a good way either it was "don't touch me" crying. So I always strive to be good except when I'm being bad...
*giggles*
mollydoll

[hissexypet]

I love being called a good girl. Its the ultimate form of praise in my book.

Just love hearing Him tell me that, I just beam with pride knowing that He is pleased with me.

[Sanapet]

I know I'm new to the forum, but when my Master calls me a 'good girl' it's extremely rewarding. I feel like He's pleased with me and my action.

On the flip side, I had a problem in the beginning of O/our relationship with Him calling me slave, just as a pet name. For me the word seemed very cold and demeaning. I thought of a few alternatives I could live with or would like better and talked to Him about using those instead of slave (He now calls me pet). And W/we decided that He would use 'slave' when he was displeased with me or punishing me since it bothered me anyway.

Hope this helps!

Sana

[mauiboy73]

When my Mistress tells me "good girl", i know that ive pleased her. Therefore, i love hearing "good girl".

[AdrianaAurora]

Its not the words, but who says them and what they mean by them. If a colleague or business partner said that to me (which has happened) - it usually ends up with me reducing them to little boys, lol.

When Tristan says it, I LOVE it. Its why I do this. Its a praise, an endearment, an acknowledgment that I have pleased him (that he likes it, that I have done a good job). For me they eliminate the humiliation/embarrassment aspect of doing something.

[subserviant]

I guess im different than most ,good girl is like saying good dog ,I prefer some thing like good slut

[Oak]

I certainly hope that my subs like it, as I quite often have called them good girls, not to offend them, but surely to say that they've been "good" girls.

[BrightFyrefly]

I can understand how someone might feel like they don't like being referred to as a "good girl", since I myself had issues for a while that the terms "cute" and "adorable" meant that I wasn't seen as an adult. My thinking has changed, and I know that terms like that don't mean that I'm not seen as an adult, but that I'm doing something that possibly emphasizes my innocence in certain ways. And as far as "good girl" goes, I like knowing that I'm pleasing my Master, no matter the terms he uses to tell me.

[SubmissiveDoll]

I totally love it when He calls me His good girl. There is almost nothing that will give me that stupid grin quite as fast. Especially when He says it in French... *purrs*

[Isabella King]

Love it from people who care about me - hate it from people who don't.

[BrightFyrefly]

I totally love it when He calls me His good girl. There is almost nothing that will give me that stupid grin quite as fast. Especially when He says it in French... *purrs*

That's really awesome...but I have a thing for accents...

[his_girl_l]

i LOVE being told i'm a good girl.

But i understand where you're coming from. Sometimes my Master calls me dear, it seems simple enough, it's just a word and an affectionate one at that. But something about the way He uses it makes it just drip with patronising condescension and i really can't stand it.

Of course the second He knew i reacted that way to it He filed it away for future use. Whereas if i hadn't mentioned it chances are i never would have heard the phrase again.

So i would be careful of what words to use when discussing this with your Dom

[jezabel]

I love it when my Master calls me a "good girl", but lately He has started calling me "girlie" and it drives me mad, unfortunately i told Him so now to wind me up, He says it more often.....damn Doms lmao

[his_girl_l]

i know. i so often find myself cursing myself the second words come out of my mouth, knowing that i've just given Him yet another button to push!

[AdrianaAurora]

i know. i so often find myself cursing myself the second words come out of my mouth, knowing that i've just given Him yet another button to push!

Dont you just HATE that, . I simply cant help myself, I have to tell Him everything or I feel like I am about to burst.

[jezabel]

Dont you just HATE that, . I simply cant help myself, I have to tell Him everything or I feel like I am about to burst.(

i hate the fact i cant keep anything from Him, He only has to say "slut" and im spilling the truth. lmao

[BrightFyrefly]

i hate the fact i cant keep anything from Him, He only has to say "slut" and im spilling the truth. lmao

I completely understand...and it seems like even when they aren't trying, they figure out the buttons that work the quickest...*sigh* what do you do? I think it's really one of the reasons we love them.

[Laila]

Does anyone say this to you? Do you like it? Dislike it? Are you indifferent? Suppose you really disliked it, and it was meant as a reward, would you say so, or try to accept it as it's given?

Oh, my favourite thing. It puts the widest smiles on my face when my Master says it to me. And I like it also when random people say it jokingly - e.g. at work.

And I so agree - why is it that you feel sooo much more compelled to tell you Master every embarrassing, interesting detail of your thoughts that you'd never think about telling a 'normal' boyfriend.
Ok I love that...

[BDMjane]

I love being call good girl. It really mean so much to me.

[overxposedpet]

I love being told I am a "good girl" it kind of makes me feel more secure and that I am pleasing him. Being told "good girl" after a command makes me really want to please more and it makes me even hornier if that is possible

[PetJulie]

Does anyone say this to you? Do you like it? Dislike it? Are you indifferent? Suppose you really disliked it, and it was meant as a reward, would you say so, or try to accept it as it's given?

It is actually something that my Master says when I have done a good job with something. We are rl and online. When I say something that is the correct response or a good idea then he tell me 'good girl'. One of my names is also Pet even though we do not do animal play.

I just found out last night that my Master is getting me a cuff and collar set! I am very excited.

[isis646]

Since my Sir & i are so far apart. I like to hear it and see it in texts. I also like good sub, good pet. It just makes me feel so good knowing i made him happy.
His name for me is pet and i like it.
Now if anyone else in my "everyday" life were to say it I would be very upset and would say something about it. It would feel patronizing and degrading coming from anyone else but Sir.

[goalt]

I love it when Mistress calls me that.

[wonderworld]

Frankly I hate the phrase. It does take me back to being a kid- which I love. I am a big kid and I act like one whenever I can get away with it. However, I was aways in trouble as a kid. So when I hear the phrase Good Girl I dont think of it as praise, I think of it as acknowledgement that I have given in to something. I am not offended, I'll be a "girl" till I'm 100, but hearing Good Girl distracts me from what is going on to the point my instincts kick in to do the opposite of what I just got praised for. I give a heads up. Otherwise, they're bringing out the brat in me unknowingly... I'm new at this though. Maybe I need to work on that.

I love to be called pet, sweet, baby, anything else... bring it all on!

[fantasien]

so far, i appreciate it in an affirming effect. For me I like to please my Master/DOM, so it reaffirms that i have done that.

that is were i stand on it. But in some ways it also feels like a himiliation connotation to. Which i appreciate as well. it puts me in place and tells me that i need to be a good girl and keep pleasing her as my DOM. even though its just online.

[thir]

Does anyone say this to you? Do you like it? Dislike it? Are you indifferent? Suppose you really disliked it, and it was meant as a reward, would you say so, or try to accept it as it's given?

Yes, my Dom does say it to me, and I hate it. I am not a girl, I do not like the implication that slaves/subs are like children. It just bothers me!

[ghanima{DM690}]

My Dom calls me his good girl when I have done something well and I always try to get him to call me "his good girl". It invokes an feeling of utter happiness that i never got with any of my vanilla relationships. However at my job i have had people call me a good girl or sweetie and it drives me crazy, like i see red...lol. I only like it when he calls me good girl ;-)

[claire]

I think if it really bothers you, you should respectfully let him know. My Daddy Dom calls me his little girl or his baby girl which I love. He also used to call me "little baby". For some reason that hits my buttons and feels like something a bully on a play ground would say. I explained that to him and told him the terms I do like. He has stopped using it. We are just on line, so the way it is said and the intonation are entirely in my head. If it were real life where I had other visual or verbal clues I might react differently.

[Mangel]

i really enjoy being called 'good girl' my bf/Dom also calls me his angel, there are many things that make me feel good about making him happy and many things he says to me are just that much mre rewarding.