hmm, good question obsidian and very good point VV. Dom/me, submissive, slave, or switch, are they not just labels trying to put people in nice safe categories? each person may have a different role with each person they come into contact with. Though in general i do consider myself a submissive/slave there are relationships that i have in which i am not submissive at all. I am a strong person and can take the lead in any given situation, but for one and in that i am completely submissive and follow His lead.