safeword fail?

[ksst]

I know what you mean by twitterpated/stupid and wanting to forget safety in the middle of the act. My Master never loses his head that way, but a lot of this on line safety discussion helps me realize I have to pull back and retain sense and sensibility too- he's not the only responsible one here. I have at times contemplated giving up safewords, and I don't even know why, these things come into my head like I'm falling down a deep hole, and the farther I fall the deeper I want to go. So, thank you, to my on line helpers/mentors/advice givers here.

[Dog's Lady]

Hey, that's what we are here for. Just be there for the next person-pay it forward.

[brace [EDQ]]

My "safeword" is an inappropriate song - any inappropriate song, whether it is sung, hummed through a gag, whether he can understand it or not. ie: humming "Happy Birthday" on his birthday wouldn't trigger it, but "Mary had a Little Lamb" would. I never got close to using it, but it's good for us to know it is there.

[leo9]

I hadn't used my safeword before, although we agreed to have one because it seemed like a good idea, everyone said it was a good idea. Then last night I actually did need it but I couldn't say it, I couldn't even think of it.

I haven't seen this, but I have heard of it, and I did get into trouble once with a sub who got so deep into role-playing a kidnap victim that she forgot she had a safeword.

I was too far out/ down/under, where ever it was, and all I could mumble was "help, help, help" and he realized I was serious and quickly released me.

Another good reason to play with people you know! The sub mentioned above was one I'd only played with once before, if I'd known her reactions better I wouldn't have missed it.

My late wife didn't have an official safeword - we started with one, being responsible players, but it was a big moment in our relationship when I took it away - but if she called me by my name instead of "Master," I knew it was an emergency.

[Ozme52]

I haven't seen this, but I have heard of it, and I did get into trouble once with a sub who got so deep into role-playing a kidnap victim that she forgot she had a safeword.
Another good reason to play with people you know! The sub mentioned above was one I'd only played with once before, if I'd known her reactions better I wouldn't have missed it.

Then how would you ever get to that point... that you know them well enough. I stand by my suggestion of training them to "remember" ala my firedrill notion. At play parties with subs I've never met, I always do so at least once, if not twice, depending on the activity. Besides... it's hot to grasp some hair, or grab a chin, tilt their head to make eye contact and say "Do you remember your safeword? Say it for me!!" ...and it sets a D/s mood for both them and me.

My late wife didn't have an official safeword - we started with one, being responsible players, but it was a big moment in our relationship when I took it away - but if she called me by my name instead of "Master," I knew it was an emergency.

And how is that NOT a safeword? By definition it's a word that makes you stop. You may have conditions which must be met to validate its use,and if she uses it and you deem it not an emergency... well I imagine you would deal with it at some point, whether immediately or later, as a disciplinary issue. But it IS indeed, a safeword.

[ksst]

Well, just to update, I haven't needed a safeword lately, but if he's worried about me he'll ask what color, and I'm generally green. Once I was at yellow. I have not used red yet. I have been unable to give a color at all occasionally in subspace and then he just backs off me anyway. This was also his question at the last munch, and the presenter recommended for him to find ways to take me deeper or bring me out of subspace at his will, as well as having me hold something that could be dropped as a signal, which is easier than talking I guess. I like being in subspace, and would just as soon stay there for a while