Jealousy

[ksst]

Why is three years of ownership the same as 30 years of vanilla relationship?

[scarlet_85]

Why is three years of ownership the same as 30 years of vanilla relationship?

I'm curious to know the answer to this as well. I could understand that with a BDSM relationship it requires more. At least in my opinion. For instance, effort, trust, communication... These are all things that will increase in a D/s relationship. I feel though that my year of devotion to my Master is still a year. In all honesty, I have zero desire to serve another... Ever. I've thought about the possibility of being able to, but it always comes back to the same thought. I don't think I could.

Also a comment was made about worth. I feel its a great point. Even though jealousy surfaces on occasion with new "threats", my Master saying things such as: I'm so proud of you -and- you are My one and only -and- you are the only cherry on ky cherry tree ... Well, it's the reassurance that I need to make all jealousy subside. If you have an honest relationship, comments of reassurance must be taken at face value and should in turn be comforting.

[Ozme52]

Why is three years of ownership the same as 30 years of vanilla relationship?

Strictly a personal opinion of course... and I maintain both vanilla and kink relationships (being poly and/or open,) I just think that the intensity of emotions one feels between a dominant and submissive, are more intense with higher highs and lower lows, more fulfilling, and in some ways, more prone to love/lust "at first sight" fulfillment and burnout, than vanilla. Master/slave relationships, that are based on emotional bonds, may be even moreso in intensity.

So a three year commitment is like a 30 year vanilla relationship and those aren't disposed of as readily as a relationship of shorter term.

[ksst]

And yes, I am obsessive.