Patience is the true key to a fruitful relationship but the only way a good Dominant will understand you, will be getting to know you. Since this lifestyle isn't a race, take your time because grief within a conversation doesn't go well and a poor ingredient within the mix.
Look at it this way, when I train a pet, I would like to see the pet perform because the pet wants to. It wants to perform because of trust and to please the handler. If the pet doesn't trust and has to perform, the pet generally doesn't perform the task to it's best ability.
Back to the beginning, patience on both parts. It takes a good ear to listen, a wise one to reflect the conversation. Take your time and also analyze what you're expressing. Those revelations at some point in time will be put aside with a wise Sir. Once dealt with, you have the chance to start all over again and look at the past, as the past.