please give me advice

[thir]

Thank you both for your advice. It's becoming a matter of spasms and nerves. I tense now prior to, and it's one of the things we are working on. Being on top for me makes it worse. I found it is easier in me on bottom or doggy-style. It just sucks being 22 years old and having all these issues. It makes me think that I shouldn't express what I want because I can't even have sex without pain. It makes me rethink things a lot, and I'm getting really confused about it all.

I have no advice on this, except this exert from an article on vaginismus:Paralytics

"In cases of vaginismus where more traditional treatments have not been successful, a paralytic agent such as Botox may be used. Botox offers an option that allows women who deeply fear penetration to the point where dilators are "too scary" to move ahead despite this fear.[1] The use of Botox relaxes the muscle spasm for about four months. After the procedure, the patient awakens having already achieved that which is usually the hardest first step, the insertion of a large dilator. The anesthesia works to ensure that her first experience with the dilator is not painful."

I do not know if that is any help at all. But I hope things will get better for you both.