Kore, thank you for all the kind words and concern. However, I think you may have misunderstood me ever so slightly. My marriage, my family, all in a good place. We all have been for a while and its getting better day by day. This one problem that has always been a problem, and I'm talking since at 14 when i met Him and fell in love with Him, and chose to marry him, ect, crossed over into this new territory with us. Hence, we are trying to find a better way (both of us i might add) to deal with it. He isn't pissed like this every second of every day of our lives, and if I made it sound that way, I guess I overspoke. It's just a big deal for me when it does happen. He gets in a mood that I secretly use to refer to as male PMS where everything sucks and nothing is good enough. But not daily... its just bad for me WHEN it happens and we are trying to find a way around it that works for us both. As for all of your very good suggestions, we really already do those things normally anyway(as for no more kids, Him a Dr. and a pair of scissors had a date about a year ago). Again thank you for your kindness =)