Sir has asked me to expand upon his answer (the submissive in question from his earlier reply). i LOVE my journal! LOVE IT- can't stress that enough. First off after any particularly intense session once i have been brought back to reality, Sir hands me my journal. What comes out is uncensored, real, and not thought out. i just write and write, like there is a direct connection between my brain and the paper. Sometimes not even i am aware of the actuall words on the paper until i go back and read them. Sir always reads what i write, it gives him a REAL and unrestrained look at what just went on in my body and mind. Secondly, it can be difficult as a sub to go to your Dominate and... hmmm how to put this.... bitch about them or their behavior. Walking up and saying "Sir/Ma'am I have a problem with x that you are doing or y that you are not" is sometimes quite impossable for a sub to feel like they can do with out breaching their place or showing impropper amounts of respect. Now a well thought out page in the journal where no one speaks back until your words are done- thats easy to do. To write "with all due respect sir i feel this way". Paper is not judgemental, and will not REACT as we write, so it can be unfilterd honesty- something a sub may find hard when face to face with their Dom. And thirdly, i get assignments that help Sir further understand my inner needs and desired (sexually and emotionally). i will have to write out a fantisy sceene with details, or come up with a limit i think He could push, or maybe 10 things i can do to be a better sub and 10 things i think He could do to be a better Dom. Now not every single wish or complaint is COMPLIED with by Him, He is my Sir and does as He sees fit, but the journal gives Him access to my thoughts in a respectful and non intimadating way.... hope that helps