Let me give you a little background on me. My first 4 yrs in the military was in the USMC, my next 6 in the Army doing ground warfare. Since then I have returned to Iraq and Afghanistan 5 times. I have what you would call a type A personality, like most Dominate males. I think what you described is very "subish" if you will. You can try to rationalize it all you want, but when you have your "Master" bent over the couch and your going to town on him, its hard not to look at him and think he is weak. Once again this is just my opinion and I am sure to get raked over the coals for it, but I can fully understand how you can look at him as less of a Master. He might not be the right man/woman for you.