Can anyone help me?

[cariad]

Hi,
I am 30 happily married and very into BDSM, but I am having problems admitting and accepting that I do like it.
I was bought up a catholic (Don't know if that explains it).
I like to be dominated by my husband, who loves to dom. But I can not talk about it afterwards and if he tries to instigate sex I won't play along.
He thinks I can't accept who I am?

So I guess I am looking for reassurance that I am not some sort of freak that like to be spanked.
Please help??

I see your account has been closed. But since I am sure you are not the only person who passes through these threads who has this conflict within them I am going to respond to your introduction.

The short and easy answer is that in the opinion of the members of this forum, myself included, you are not a freak of any sort.

I was fortunate that I never had an issue with being spanked, guess I was too busy enjoying it, and the after effects. However there are elements of what I enjoy within this lifestyle which I did have to grapple with, and come up with answer which was right for me.

It is a shame that you cannot discuss these matters with your husband. What I would suggest is that explore these threads, you will find that you are not alone in your desires, and maybe establish a PM (private message) relationship with a few people you feel you can trust, and explore the issues with them.

I hope that you find both what you are looking are for and what you need.

cariad

[sub_in_denial]

Thanks for your words of encouragement. My hub tries to get me to talk about it but I just get so embarassed. I will have a read and see if I can get myself sorted. Thankyou.

SID

[cariad]

Thanks for your words of encouragement. My hub tries to get me to talk about it but I just get so embarassed. I will have a read and see if I can get myself sorted. Thankyou.

SID

Delighted that you are still here! I wonder why you are showing as if you not...all very odd.

Hugs
cariad

[Tojo]

Hi & welcome, sub soon to be in acceptance.

Yes as the other lovely people have said, you are far from alone. The fact that you now have the Internet as a resource makes it much easier to gain knowledge & support.

Rest assured that you are doing something very courageous & sensible by making that post. I can absolutely guarantee you'll be well supported here.

Read & ask questions- feel free to PM anyone who looks helpful, myself included- with any personal queries.

Tojo