Need advice

[Jennifer Williams]

Oh yes, duh, I automatically assumed that what he meant by collar is what I would mean by collar.

You should ask him what he means by "collared". Maybe for him it's just something akin to "going steady" (like wearing his ring meant back in the fifties), where he is claiming you as his and not available for someone else, not asking you to say you'll be with him forever. If that's all it is, it might be more appropriate for you to wear it.

[Lisais mine]

I am of the opinion that you shouldnt jump inot a commited relationship on the heels of another. maybe you should talk to him more about that. besides, just because you put a leather band around your neck doesnt change anything.

I made that mistake with my first sub. she and i started dating soon after my split with my ex. i talked about collaring her. i think that put unreasonable expectations on us, cause she totally wanted it and i didnt understand the depth of that commitment.