Relationships and Friendships

[rosebud]

^ Ahhhh...Ok.

The couple is in a known monogamous relationship and cheating will be defined as,
any act of dishonesty or unfaithfulness in a sexual manner, either IRL or Online.

[tina2008]

^ Ahhhh...Ok.

The couple is in a known monogamous relationship and cheating will be defined as,
any act of dishonesty or unfaithfulness in a sexual manner, either IRL or Online.

Well hell.....that's a tough question. Not sure what I'd do. Sigh....I'm no help at all, am I? Sorry

[Ozme52]

^ Ahhhh...Ok.

The couple is in a known monogamous relationship and cheating will be defined as,
any act of dishonesty or unfaithfulness in a sexual manner, either IRL or Online.

Yeah... but so am I... to the outside vanilla world. Privately we are open. We don't swing (or at least, not together,) nor do we play with any mutual friends or acquaintances.

We agreed on "don't ask - don't tell" and while if we were to "begin again" we might do it differently, on the other hand, you don't mess with 30+ years of success.

So if you were a vanilla friend and were to "discover" I or my wife were having an affair... and came and told the other of us, your news would be unwelcome.

Very unwelcome. It's not your business unless you are specifically asked. Then and only then do you have the right to divulge your knowledge and only if you are primarily the friend of one side of the couple and not the other. Even then, I'd be wary. If you value the friendship you, as the "bearer of bad news" could very well be ending it.

Bottom line, imo, stay out of it.

[rosebud]

Many thx to all of you for your replies!

It would be simple to answer my own questions, as i have many aquaintance's
but only one, really true friend and with her in mind, all i would have to do
if, in that situation, would be to copy and paste denu's replies.
lol....thx denu. *hugssss*

i tend to think though, that a majority of people would choose to ignore
the situation, that they wouldn't want to get involved and as some of
the replies have shown, some just don't want to know.

Oz made a point also...

If you value the friendship you, as the "bearer of bad news" could very well be ending it.

i think even if the truth is right there staring them in the face, they don't want
to believe it and a simple denial from the one being accused, may put a wedge
between the two friends. i imagine though, that would depend on their closeness
to one another and the crediblity of the one bearing the news.