are you a dom?

[Jennifer Williams]

I'll agree with pretend arrogance, maybe. "In-a-session" arrogance, sure. But real arrogance- the attitude that "I am truly better than you and you are a lesser human being than I am and therefore what you say and think and feel don't matter compared with me"...not so much.

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We're not in Kansas anymore, Toto.

[Guera]

I was thinking more of the attitude that "I am more important to me than you are to me, or that I do not need to have any accord with you to like you", as opposed to saying that "I am better than you". But I did look at the definition of arrogance in a a bunch of online dictionarys, and it seems that the idea of superiority and overbearing attitude are part of most definitions of arrogance. So I will have to come up with a better word.

Maybe pride, ego, impudence? It is possilbe for a dom/me to have a snotty attitude towards their sub, and it still be a very positive relationship, because the Dom/me is saying that it is ok for the sub to be their own person, and the Dom/me is secure both with themselves and with the sub reflecting well upon them. And the sub is secure that the Dom/me attitude is not dependant upon him/her acting or saying certian things.