Why do many BDSM people look down on switches?

[Apexsandman]

This question (the one the thread is all about) comes up a lot. For me, anyway, I switch because I want to be able to experience the full range of erotic possibilities. I enjoy sexual power exchange in too many and varied ways to want to be limited to one role only. The saying used to be "your kink is ok." Well, my kink tends not to stay put. I'm ok with that, whether others are or not, but it does complicate finding the "right" partner to be with.

[leo9]

Well, my kink tends not to stay put. I'm ok with that, whether others are or not, but it does complicate finding the "right" partner to be with.

In my purely personal opinion, being a serious switch, like being fully bisexual, almost necessarily implies some kind of polyamory. You might be lucky enough to find someone who can be everthing you need, but your chances are an order of magnitude better if you don't try to get it all at the one shop.

For me, being able to sub is not the same as needing to: it's a possibility I'm aware of, something that might happen one day if I should meet someone who pulls at that side of my nature. But it's not an unfulfilled need, the way I feel I'm missing something if I don't get to beat and rape a man now and then.