Love vs. Love

[damyanti]

Why does it have to be any more complicated than that?

The smart ass answer would be because I have to question everything, LOL.

But that is just it...if its Love it shouldnt be complicated. If you have to question, if there is constantly high drama, if you do things that you know will hurt another person, if you go from one relationship to another - it is not Love. If you are on again off again on again...it doesnt strike me as love.

I seriously doubt that anyone loves anyone (and this goes for more than just romantic love). We do right by them, we spend time together, we bond, we stay together out of choice. We care...

...We settle...and call it love.

When we meet someone with whom we click, we are overwhelmed with hormones, we become completely crazy about the other person. It is almost like an addiction. Amber does pose a very good question...why is this less? Because it doesnt last. Because its flimsy. Because its addictive and because a lot of people go from one relationship to another trying to capture that feeling because they think its love.

If people do stay together after that it is out of habit, because its convenient, because its monetary sound policy, because they have been together for a long time and their lives are too entwined. Because they are afraid to be alone. And in lucky cases there is still affection.

People are social creatures, we have urges/needs to bond. It has been that way since the beginning of time. Why is that less worthy than "Love"? Romantic love as a relationship foundation is a rather new concept.

Today is also common to hear "I love you" when someone is merely in lust after you and they simply decide you tick all the right boxes of what they want. In fact this is the most common example. What grates me is the dishonesty of it. People cheat or do other hurtful things but thats ok because they "love" their partner.

Perhaps I am in the wrong and you are right that this is Love. But as I said in the post above you are welcome to it. It involves too much drama, too many lies, its too exhausting...because when you come crashing back to reality hurt of what you didnt find is all too real. And unlike the popular saying I dont believe that pain is love....he/she is just not that into you (and they probably never were).