So much good advice and opinions. I have been in the same situation freedom, and i'm afraid i'm going to have to agree with QuietMaster. I did everything i could to please my Dom, but after i had topped Him a couple of times, it got very difficult to submit to Him. I am not comfortable in a Domme/Top situation, period. And when asked to perform in that role, it was very awkward and made me feel quite inept. Needless to say, I got so uncomfortable, that I ended the relationship. I do hope that you find the answer you are looking for and that you are able to work things out in a way that is best for you *smiles* Good luck and take care!