Handicapped People and BDSM - The redux

[RickBulow74]

I thank you for the plug to the YAaoo group and will check it out soon. Another reason for my posting it here is becausewhen I did in the past it had brought out some replies form those who are memberas here and have handicaps to share their experiences here. I am one who is an open book and as such open about my disabilitym as was evident in my interview with AlexBragi in the Who's Who Here thread which I had done back in 2006

[Oak]

Yes handicapped people can be in and have a great time in this lifestyle.
A close friend of mine, was multi handicapped, sat in wheelchair, and could hardly move at all. But he was into our lifestyle - Gay, leather man and submissive. When he should to meetings somewhere, his old 70 something mother packed his gear for him. I can assure you that he was very active and enjoyed it.

[Pearlgem]

I recently made a friend in here - a lovely, warm, intelligent, insightful man seeking to explore his sub side with an understanding Domme. Nothing unusual there.

After quite a long conversation when confidences had been shared, he asked me if I was 'very open minded'. I claimed to be, wondering what on earth he was going to tell me and whether anything in my limited experience would assist me. I braced myself. The big revelation was that he has a disability.

What is shocking about this is the fact that he felt, on here, that such a piece of information was something that he couldn't readily disclose. His profile no longer mentions his disability. When he was new here and it did mention it, he found himself being largely ignored. Not even flirted with! Now he wants a real time relationship eventually but he's here primarily to make friends, learn and grow. So why is he being discriminated against?

It makes me very concerned. I thought the philosophy of the Library was that we respect all kinks, and the people attached to them. Look at the post about bestiality, and the huge number of replies that got. It seems we're willing to afford dogs a better sex life than people with disabilities.

Surely the Library is is a forum where what you are is more important that what you look like. That's one of the things that is so reassuring about finding this place. Lots of women are very self conscious about their looks and weight - witness again the recent post on body size and shape - but my God, if we all had to be kinky AND super models, the lifestyle would exclude the vast majority of us.

Surely on line we are all equal. If flirting always led to a real life encounter, may you fall pregnant every time you even think about sex!

What does it mean to be an on line community?
Are we all equal or not?

Let's get this subject right out there in the open and hear the experiences of people with disabilities as I'm starting to think, sadly, this might be the last taboo.