now that was a perfect reply Sirpervy, and i agree with it wholeheartedly. theres been times i've been through a submissive phase. albeit they are really short, really short phases. and i find it weird that some submissives seem lost on that aspect when all they have to do is just reverse the roles, and go with what the dominant expected of them, to just do the same orders. and to take that experience and build upon it, sure it's a stretch, but it's definitly a learning stretch. so my advice to you freedom37803, is to try what is normally done to you but with a lighter touch to start off with. then build on it till you find whats right for those situations. good luck, it's a weird task to be sure, but i'm sure you'll love the break from the normal. unless you do take it as an order in which case it would be the normal? think i got that right.