Hiya WW -
When I first came here -thought about being submissive -I was like a kid in a candy store --wanted to try and experience everything at once --so much so that my head spun. Then I met a dom --he said take it slow --refused to jump into a D/s realtionship until we really got to know each other. He is probably the most intelligent man I know and really listens to people. No, its not all about being kinky (but that sure is a fun side benefit), exploring your fantisies is part of it. I think it is about finding that special person who you want to please more than you want to please yourself. This is where I'm at now --forcing myself to go slow, reading posts and trying to make friends to talk things over with.