Learning the Rope.. by Race Bannon

Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns" by Philip Miller and Molly Devon

Sensuous Magic.... by Pat Califia

SM 101: A Realistic Introduction" by Jay Wiseman

Safe, Sane, Consensual, and Fun" by John Warren

Consensual Sadomasochism... by William Henkin and Sybil Holiday

this i think is worth bookmarking, it has a lot of helpful and interesting links.
http://domsubfriends.com/cgi-local/w...s=View+Records

but remember whatever books you read or anything you see on the net, dont take as gospel, there is a lot of good and bad info out there...just build it gradually use your own judgement and instinct do whats right for you..not what some ''expert'' (of which there's many self-proclaimed ones on the www lol) decrees and dont be too eager to rush anything.