I too understand where you are coming from... I am a plus size myself.

Here is what my husdand told me..

"I don't want a really thin person. Thats nasty. But I don't want to be with someone who is really large either."

I have spoken with him a lot on what a large person is. To him, it is some one who parks close to a store, so that they don't have to walk. Or someone who can't walk. Or gets out of breath walking a short distance. To him, HEALTH is attractive. He says he loves me, but wants me to lose weight, not becuase he feels I am fat, he loves my size, but he wants me to be healthy. For our future children, and for myself.

He also said though that regardless of size, confidence is key. He gets so mad at me for putting myself down. He says that if I am confident, and happy with myself, that you are beautiful at any size.

Now rereading this, I got annoyed with myself with all of the he said stuff, but its true!

I have seen so many times where a large women has a hotter guy, or goes on more dates, or just radiates with happiness! And that is confidence my friend. And confidence, and being happy with you, is key.

I am still overweight, but I am happy with myself. I love me! And when I keep that in mind, I get so much more attention from men and my husband.