Body Size & Shape

[caligirl{Rob}]

I get very self-conscious of my body/appearance and would just as well "hide" behind something that pushes and pulls all the parts that need to be put back into place, however Sarge still prefers me bare, and enjoys working our sessions in front of a mirror with my eyes watching His work. I am slowly learning to relinquish my "horror" to His pride...it is a long road even for some in fine shape to see ourselves in a positive light.
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[tessa]

I hate to be a Mr complainy.

That was a fun smile.

Several years ago now, I watched an interview with Cindy Crawford (supermodel in the 90's). In the interview, she mentioned that some designers called her a "cow" because of her size and how her pictures had been nipped/tucked and airbrushed to make them look better. I thought to myself, "well, hell, if Cindy Crawford is a "cow" that needs air-brushing, what am I trying so damned hard for??"

I think we all have body image issues at points of times in out lives. We're egocentric creatures with fragile egocentricities, so it's inevitable that even if you have an "I make this look good" attitude, one day sooner or later you'll look in the mirror and think, "ugh, no I don't", no matter your body shape.

Attraction involves so many complex facets that limiting it to one component hinders the mindfulness of it all, but since the question was asked, I'll be a participant in the answering.

As for what attracts or doesn't (on a strictly physical level, I must add), I'm attracted to a shape that is well-proportioned- big or small, if the overall package is balanced out, I'm looking. Now balanced out or otherwise, I am not attracted to the great extremes of skinny or obese. That probably has more to do with what I see as planned unhealthiness than it has to do with attractiveness, though.

[TomOfSweden]

As for what attracts or doesn't (on a strictly physical level, I must add), I'm attracted to a shape that is well-proportioned- big or small, if the overall package is balanced out, I'm looking. Now balanced out or otherwise, I am not attracted to the great extremes of skinny or obese. That probably has more to do with what I see as planned unhealthiness than it has to do with attractiveness, though.[/COLOR]

"Planned unhealthiness" I thought was funny.

[.x.Cole.x.]

i have been "big" as far back as i can remember... from when i was a lil girl... my mother says i started gaining weight when they put me on meds for my asthma which was really bad. pregnazon or something like that...

so being big is something i have had to deal with and i hate it. i wish i could be like these other chick ya know... blah... its whatever.... but onto more serious stuff...


when i first got with my Sir i was so self concious... i wore two shirts and pants all the time. Sir then started ordering me to wear a skirt unless i asked not to. so i slowly started to like my body more to where shorts and skirts... and now Sir is working on me being naked infront of Him without any problems... thats hard but slowly im becoming secure in my body... dont get me wrong i wish i could lose weight and it will be a long time before i can stand in front of Sir completely naked... He isnt going to like that but i cant help it. i have hid myself for 18 years now... and its weird showing my body to people....

i myself like thick people. my first girlfriend was thick... but she was beautiful. when she passed away i knew no one else could be as beautiful as her. never dated and never dated and then i met Sir. everything changed....

girl dont worry. im sure you are beautiful... better to be thick and beautiful than skinny enough your ribs show... Sir always says He doesnt want a skinny girl cuz He feels He has to feed Her.. plus with D/s... she'd break.. lol.. kidding but dont worry. your Sir took you as you are and He knew how you looked.. so let Him have what He "signed up" for....

much love///

.x.Cole.x.

[BorderCollie]

[FONT="Comic Sans MS"]Please allow me to answer this as a couple not as one or the other. First and formost, NOBODY is perfect and I mean NOBODY.
Secondly most, if not all of the "GLAMOURS" are models and not really into our lifestyle and scream high maintainance.

Now my sub is shall we say "Packing Some Emergency Skin" yet she is the most sensational person I know, and wouldn't swap her for anything.
I on the other hand, am 6 years her junior and being an ex-footballer am typical of that build and at 46, the doctor gave me a major check up and stated that I'm as fit and healthy as any 26 yo. However I'm bald!
Rest assured, I am not going out and getting a wig, hair transplant or whatever.
In my opinion you get dealt your hand when you are born and you deal with it.
Clair, KUDOS for having the guts (honest, no pun intended) for bring this topic up, it's incredibly brave of you, as this topic is very prominant to us.

Are you physically attracted to or repelled by a fat person? I personally find the person attractive, and in this case my sub is also attractive. See a pic at alt.com BorderCollie. I much prefer when surfing porn to look at amature sites 'cause they are REAL people. Take a look around a shopping centre one day and see exactly how many people, be it male of female are incredebly attractive or thin???
Most larger girls for some reason have incredible skin, and usually very pretty face.

Are you physically attracted to or repelled by a thin person? It depends, usually attractive/thin people get around like a POX DOCTORS CLERK. They think they are just the best, when in reality they are a shitty person of shallow substance.

What body type attracts you most? I really like a real body shape, the kid of shape that will have a beer with you, be able to eat desert at a night out, and will also be comfortable nude and bound or whatever.

How have your own body issues affected your love/sex life? Hell Yeah! I'm totally bald on top, I'm not hung like a donkey (Mr Average if ever there was some) which my sub likes as she loves anal, but not with a huge gadget. Where all my muscles used to be when I was playing football, gravity it well and truley doing it's thing.

What are my subs major high points??? She is a kind, generous, happy person.
She loves bondage, has the cutes feet and I'm not a foot fetishest. A killer smile. Hands down my best mate ever!

Again, a brilliant topic. My sub does not think she is worthy and has low seld asteam, the fool woman is dillusional and thinks that every woman wants me LOL

[long_x9]

Are you physically attracted to or repelled by a fat person?
Are you physically attracted to or repelled by a thin person?

Im going to answer both at the same time. I am not particularly attracted to fat or thin women more then I am the other. The most important thing is that they are healthy and happy. I find someone who is happy much more attractive then one that is unhappy. The part of the answer that will probably answer what u wanted as a answer is that I think that women should be proportional. A bigger girl with no tits or ass is just not very attractive to me and a twig with DD+ just are unnatural and also not very attractive to me.


What body type attracts you most?

well lets start from the top down, I like long black hair with a cute face. The face is one of the most important areas to me if Im not attracted to your face it just isnt going to work out for me. I like big boobs ( but proportional so to go with the rest of what Im going to say well just say anywhere between Large C and F) torso,arms and legs should have meat on them but not over doing it.. something u can grab but I dont want it to feel like its the same consistency as there boobs all over there body.

How have your own body issues affected your love/sex life?

it doesn't I dont think about how I look when Im with my girl even though I wish I was skinnier and more attractive I dont let it bother me when me and her are having our alone time

[MissConfused]

I am sorry if this has already been mentioned
This thread is long and I may have missed a reply

Does anyone here have a body that approaches their avatar?
Does everyone here seek pleasure and has an attitude that exceeds their avatar?

I believe the answer to body size lay not with the body but the mind
Will your master remember your body size after a session or will he remember your submission and pleasure from his domination?

[DowntownAmber]

I am sorry if this has already been mentioned
This thread is long and I may have missed a reply

Does anyone here have a body that approaches their avatar?
Does everyone here seek pleasure and has an attitude that exceeds their avatar?

I believe the answer to body size lay not with the body but the mind
Will your master remember your body size after a session or will he remember your submission and pleasure from his domination?

Perhaps if I had a team of Photoshop experts and airbrushers following me around 24/7 we could discuss approaching the avatar...lol

But you are correct in suggesting that attitude etc. overrides what our bodies may or may not look like. There is a significant difference to looking beautiful and being beautiful. My preference is a nice balance between the two. There's no way I would walk out on J if he put on a few pounds, I love who he is far too much for that. However, I am very pleased and more than a little turned on when he comes back from running or working out.

It's normal and healthy to love and appreciate both the physical and the mental aspects of our partners.