Hi Claire

The question is not always the weight. There are heavily overweight people that still seem attractive to me, because they have charism. If people seem to be confident, seem to feel comfortable with themselves, this is part of the deal. Although this is nothing sexual for me, (I usually head for the average guy, not skinny but not fat also), it makes me see some people while, as Tom, seem to erase others which are much thinner/ better in shape.
An open smile and an air of confidence make me notice people, whatever their weight may be.

Concerning my own Body issues and sex.. I never saw myself really negative... I always felt pretty comfortable in my own skin, but always considered myself average. Still I had some people bullying me at school, telling me I was ugly, so I fought a lot with myself in that time, wether I saw myself wrongly or wether these were just idiots that wanted to hurt me. It cost me dearly to find back to my selfconfidence. And some really really good friends helped me to keep my wits in this time.
My first Master was the one who reassured me, when I was almost desperate. Since then it got better and better and I realized that, as Tom told you as well, You don´t need to be perfect, you just have to find one person to which you are perfect.


Deigja