Are you an adulterer?

[Tojo]

I think in this thread it would do us well to remember we're only giving our opinions. There is no right or wrong, unless you refer to the belief that to think of another is to commit adultery.

We're all adulterers, just as we're all human.


Tojo

[Tojo]

Sorry IDCrewDawg, didn't see your post- I must have done mine at the same time. Please don't think I was referring to you.

Depending on your definition of the word, we may well all be adulterers, by just looking at another. The dictionary defines it as 'sexual intercourse with one other than wife or husband.'

So according to the dictionary I'm not an adulterer. Going by that my meeting with my dream girl where we spend a week together is OK. We won't be having sex.

Apparently a certain US President didn't commit adultery...does that mean I can indulge in oral sex??

To take it to the other extreme, I'm in love with another woman who's thousands of miles away. Should I stop talking to her?

I love my wife very much. I've never touched another woman in the 18 years we've been together. I've stayed in motel rooms with them, held their hands in counselling sessions & felt love for them.

Never been tempted to do more though, although my sex life is pretty much non-existant due to my wife's poor health.

I survive in my marriage, support & love my wife because she gives me the freedom to do what I want. I said I wanted to borrow her car for a week, take hundreds of dollars out the bank & stay in a room with a woman she's never met. She wasn't happy about borrowing the car, but otherwise trusts me. I trust myself, otherwise I wouldn't do it.

As far as having feelings for another woman, or thoughts...I'll do what I damn well want! I know I'm faithful, honest & care for my wife a whole heap more than anyone I know.

That gets me to sleep at night.

Tojo