Thank you all for your responses. The advice was well taken and thought provoking. No one person in a relationship is right or wrong. It does take two to make it work. The reason i asked for the advice was to be sure that what i had asked for was not unreasonable or out of sorts for a submissive. I value my choice to be a submissive and want to be the best i can be. If i am not it does me no good to offer myself to anyone in that role.
Communication is so vital and that had been lacking. EXpectations need to be clear and rules be enforced. Structure is the key and i too believe D/s is born in the mind and lives there. It should take more than the body restrained to make a Dom/Master content.
Please dont feel sad for i am not bitter nor do i carry any grudges. That would serve little purpose. The frustration is high but the relationship is at an end. The stress for the Dom will now be eased and i am left with lessons learned and growth so it is not a waste.
I appreciate the kindness you all have shown.
me