He sounds like a "messy" Dom. By messy I mean he doesn't know what he's doing, doesn't know what he wants from you, and sounds like he's also been lying to you about how long he's been in the lifestyle. Basically, his practices and expectations are all over the place. Messy. Hopefully you and him can talk about this and see if he can work out what he wants or you can safely leave and find another Master.