Quote Originally Posted by Ruby

"Did you like it when I tied you up?" Might receive a blush and a head nod more than an answer. It all depends on how she was brought up, her views on sex play and whether or not it was openly discussed. Follow it up with a compliment. "You looked incredibly sexy like that!" or whatever you want to say that will help her feel more confident in this role.

Keep up the praise, patience and doing whatever it does that makes her feel really good.
I thought about whether i was god at giving her praise or not. I found that i want to give her praise, but that in situations where im worried about how she will react i tend to think so much that i forget to give her praise. Thanks for pointing me in that direction.

thanks to all for answering, your stories gives me new ideas on how i can do this in a positive way.