My Master and I live together, but do not engage in BDSM 24/7. We often cannot even email everyday from work. There are times He will tell me in the morning, or night before, what He wants me to be wearing when He gets home. I know that means we will scene. But there have been times I "dress for the occasion" without being told - wanting to surprise and please him. Sometimes we scene - and sometimes we don't. But He always appreciates me trying. If He's not up for it, then I just stay dressed because He likes the way I look and we just cuddle in front of the TV after dinner. It's still fun and exciting.