Erotic Pain vs. NonErotic Pain

[pixie_dust]

Something I've always considered is the emotional state at that time.

For example, if you're in a hurry to get out the door, trip, and skin your knee, it won't be a "good" pain because your feeling frustrated with yourself and the situation. On the other hand, if your wrestling around and having fun and it gets rough, it would probably be an erotic and enjoyable pain.

In other words...
good emotions + stimuli = good pain
bad emotions + stimuli = bad pain

[tessa]

Ok, finally made it back here. I've been thinking about this quite a bit.

For me, there is erotic pain and non-erotic pain. Like when my Devil grabs the back of my neck and squeezes really hard if...ha!...when I get sarcastic with him, that's erotic pain for me. And so is a smack on my ass. Or a forceful kiss while his hand grips my face. I could go on and on.

In the past, if we were kidding around, he was likely to give me one of those little punches to the arm. Not a lot of pain involved in that, but I hated it!! It just made me feel awful and icky and ~shudders~. I finally got my feelings on that across to him and he stopped doing it. He thought it was a cute thing to do, 'cause he liked it when I would do something similar to him. Now he can smack my face and I turn into a pool of liquid lust, but that light tap on the arm hurt me in ways I couldn't handle. Why that is, not so sure.

Interesting indeed! Thanks again for asking it. I've loved reading the responses.

tessa

[gagged_Louise]

Something I've always considered is the emotional state at that time.

For example, if you're in a hurry to get out the door, trip, and skin your knee, it won't be a "good" pain because your feeling frustrated with yourself and the situation. On the other hand, if your wrestling around and having fun and it gets rough, it would probably be an erotic and enjoyable pain.

In other words...
good emotions + stimuli = good pain
bad emotions + stimuli = bad pain

Yes, that's a central point to me as well, 'cause if you, like, happpen to get a hand or a finger smashed in a retreating door, which can hurt very bad, then it's far from welcome and likely to be a nuisance for an hour or a lot more after. And you don't have the time, whereas if playing around and getting spanked, whipped hard or whatever, then likely, you've set time aside, and you won't have to rush things just afterwards. Plus, there's an intention: you can see your Dominant inflicting the lashes or whatever on you, so it becomes hotter and easier to handle as "nice pain". Anyone else here noticed, it's often harder to get free of anger with someone if you're all alone and you can't spell it out to the one you're pissed off at, or indeed to anyone? At those times, it can get just impossible to throw off the spite. Isn't it the same with pain, on some level (to perverts like us at least) it gets easier to handle when you can see your tormentor?

I guess it helps too if you knew the torment was coming, you're mentally prepared. In the same vein, when you fantasize about a scenario, you're always sort of prepared (and in control even if you picture yourself totally helpless); that could be a clue to why some things that are great as fantasy become less great in reality.