Hi- I'm a newbie too. A male sub. Um... I don't know much about your situation, other than BE LUCKY! Male submissives outnumber female tops by 10-1. You get to sit on your throne and say "Yay" or "Nay" while guys like me have to go around, trying our hardest not to look like desperate losers and somehow attract attention. Have fun as a female dom- If you're into it, I think you'll find some man-tastic guys: And you will NEVER be rejected... only get to reject! (This is from what little i heard)