Phenyx,

You've started multiple threads on this same issue. You've discussed it with me (and others, I am assuming) in private.

My question is this. If our advice is so valuable, why are you still dwelling on it? I made it perfectly clear already that this person in question is NOT safe, NOT a true Dominant and someone to move on from. I fail to understand what other responses you are hoping to find here. Boha's response right above mine here is dead on. The thing is... you've heard similar responses repeatedly and only opened up new threads.

Avoid that guy. He isn't safe. Look for a Dominant that communicates, respects boundaries and is interested in understanding what you are hoping to get out of the relationship.