It took me years to find the man who understood me and my quintessential ideas of what power exchange should entail/feel like.. Personally, I will pleasure my sub, make her cum at the end of each session for the first thirty or so sessions, allowing her to lick me or pleasure me manually, orally, or otherwise... but not to climax.. After fulfilling her ultimate pleasures so thoroughly, so protractedly, she will beg and plead with me to allow her the honor of making me cum..

I believe that submissives need to be pleasured in whatever ways they have dreamt about since first touching themselves in order to fully, completely, and totally submit to me, without holding back.. That is what I want, anyway.. The look in her eyes when you know she would do absolutely anything I ask without question.. In order to achieve that level of devotion, she needs to have been brought to sexual, sensual, and orgasmic heights she never thought possible.. She will beg and plead for my cum.. And, eventually, she will be blessed with the honor of receiving permission to continue licking me..

To each, his/her own.. Maybe you two are not compatible..